1 - having sex without protection is not always “stupidity.” People do it because of lack of education (eg: abstinence only education - usually among youth), latex allergies, bodily intolerances to birth control hormones, and when using pullout and/or ovulation charting as birth control.
2 - for many, sex IS a necessity. I can’t impress upon you the importance of that deep connection of intimacy in many peoples relationships. Sex bonds people, it releases a great deal of tension and stress, it releases endorphins, builds intimacy and strengthens connections that cant always be built though verbal communication. Regardless of relationships sex is important to many too. For those who want it, being deprived of sex can actually cause stress, anxiety, and contribute to depression. A close friend of mine recently went to her doctor about related things, and her doctor informed her that she needed to be having more sex.
Sex is good and healthy and wonderful when safe and consensual. It is not something that deserves punishment.
3 - maternal mortality is rare, but not VERY rare as you seem to think. There are some physical restrictions and medical complications that are nearly unpreventable, and can still be fatal no matter how modern our medicine gets.
Here is a link to a government website which lays out maternal mortality rates up to 2007, grouped by cause and by age group:
4 - there are a lot of reasons a person might decide a pregnancy is not for them, danger to the parent’s health is only one of them. Among these are:
- financially incapable to raising a child
- emotionally unprepared for children
- too young
- do not want children yet or ever
- would find adoption too traumatic
- physical identity would be compromised by pregnancy (eg in the cases of trans men)
- cannot afford the pregnancy
- fear of pregnancy
- unwilling to endure the pain and discomfort of pregnancy and the dangerous and painful procedure of childbirth
- pregnancy/child will make it more difficult to leave an abusive relationship
- pregnancy is result of rape and both pregnancy and child would be a continued reminder of a traumatic experience
- pregnancy would disrupt school or career path
If you cannot appreciate the extremely logical validity if some of these reasons, you need a reality check badly. I imagine some of the others you wont give respect because you are blinded by “omg but teh babies” syndrome, but i assure you, they are very very good reasons.
The greatest thing i am struck by in arguments from people like you is the absolute refusal to acknowledge a pregnant person as someone with the right to have a life of their choosing. Even beyond the importance of bodily autonomy (a right we grant even the dead, but you wish to remove from the pregnant), there is the simple fact that a pregnant person is alive too… To some, pregnancy is the end of the life they have come to know. Sometimes that change is a good thing, but to many it is not at all.
Why do you hold so little value in the life of the pregnant person, that a potential person’s future is more important than theirs?